What are you still carrying that you were never meant to keep?

Published 18 days ago • 1 min read

Hey Friend,

I'm writing this week from Oklahoma. I've been here for almost a month. My mom needs some extra care right now, so I've been spending time close to her — her home, her land, her heritage and the place where my family worked and prayed over for generations.

And I've been spending time with the dead.

Literally.

There's a family cemetery not far from here, and I've found myself walking through it more than once this season. Reading the names. Sitting with the silence. Thinking about the people who came before me and what they left behind — not in terms of things, but in terms of what mattered to them. What they chose. How they struggled and what they let go of.

It's the kind of place that makes you think about legacy.

And hope.

And faith.

And I ask myself these questions in the stillness of the Oklahoma afternoon as the sun begins to set and the wind blows against my face:

"What do I want to have been faithful to? What am I still carrying that was never mine to keep? What would I subtract — if I had the courage — to make room for what actually matters?"

Those questions are what brought me to today's episode.

We're continuing the Clarity Season together, and this week I'm talking about something that might feel counterintuitive: the discipline of subtraction. The idea that the clarity you've been looking for won't come from adding one more thing — another plan, another initiative, another commitment.

Sometimes it comes from taking something away.

I wonder — what are you carrying right now that you already know isn't serving you anymore?

Sit with that for a minute before you hit play. It's Episode 73:

The Discipline of Subtraction: How to Lead With Clarity When You're Carrying Too Much

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As always, I'm walking with you,

A girl spending a lot of time in Oklahoma taking care of her mom and finding the magic in ordinary moments.

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